We are modern day women.
We are powerful and have messages to bring to the world. We are empowered and badass.
However, nobody’s perfect, and we all still stumble and fall while making our way. Here is a list of 10 things you need to stop doing right now in order to get out of your own way and be the best version of your badass self!
1. Believing the Negative Opinions of Others
Have you ever wondered why it is so much easier to dwell on – and in some cases believe – the bad things we hear about ourselves? Stop perpetuating that negativity right now! Instead, revel in your own awesomeness.
When you’re faced with someone talking smack about you, think of three positive and totally badass things about yourself to repel that negative crap, like Wonder Woman deflecting bullets with her magic bracelets!
2. Trying to Buy Happiness
Regardless of what some people think, life isn’t a game where whoever dies with the most toys wins. Life is short, and the goal is to find and create the best time possible while we are here – not collect empty material possessions. We are the creators of our own happiness!
Happiness is a constant journey, and it’s one that you are personally in charge of! Stop putting a price tag on your joy, and start living life like the wild and free badass you are!
3. Faking Orgasms
We’ve all done it a few times, but I’m here to tell you to cut that crap now! A badass woman never denies herself pleasure. If your partner isn’t doing it right for you, then tell or show them what you need to reach that zenith! It’s all about communication.
If your partner still doesn’t get it – or even if he does – don’t be afraid to take matters into your own hands. Own your body and your pleasure, girl!
4. Putting Yourself Last
Did you know it isn’t narcissistic to put your needs first? Not one bit. If you don’t take care yourself, who will? Sure, it’s great to help out a friend or family member in need, but make sure your needs are being fulfilled before you go rushing off to take care of someone else.
Self-care is the key component to love. If you don’t love yourself enough to care for your needs, you can’t truly love anyone else, or expect to be loved in the way you deserve to be.
5. Feeling Bad about Your Sexual Experience (or Lack Thereof)
It’s a disgrace that, with as many advancements as we’ve made regarding sexual equality, some people still feel entitled to slut-shame women who own their sexualities; even other women practice this judgmental and ignorant behavior! On the flip side, some people feel the need to condemn a woman for not having ample sexual experiences.
You should never feel bad about any of your decisions and experiences; both mistakes and achievements contribute to your strength and character. Never make apologies for who you are, and stand firm in your decisions. You are a beautiful badass, so own your sexuality!
6. Spending Time with Psychic Leeches
I’m sure you’ve spent time with a psychic leech before. How do you know? The person is draining on your physical, mental, and emotional energies. They want to be around you just to feel better about themselves. Their negative energy depletes your positivity, and you feel exhausted after being around them.
Respect your energy. If you work with someone like this, or have a psychic leech you cannot avoid, then limit your time with them. Don’t be afraid to trim someone from your life if they become a stumbling block to your self-care.
7. Not Living in the Now
Do you know that dwelling on the past, whether on your mistakes or your successes, is robbing you of enjoyment in the present? Likewise, worrying about what your future holds robs you as well.
It’s simple: take the lessons – both good and bad – from your past and apply them to your life now. Live your life in the moment with daily love and joy, and the future will take care of itself. It’s ok to look forward to the future, just don’t always live in it. Keep yourself grounded, mindful, and present.
8. Looking for Someone to Save You
Are you living in a fantasy, romantic comedy state-of-mind and waiting for someone to come swooping in and save you from your life? Get your head out of the clouds, girl! You’re only going to make things worse for yourself.
Be your own heroine! Pull up those big girl panties and save yourself. Sure it can be scary, but you’ll figure it out. Learn from your mistakes, and you’ll know exactly what not to do the next time you’re in a sticky situation. You’ve got this!
9. Being in a Relationship for All the Wrong Reasons
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in life is that it is better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong ones. Not wanting to be alone is not a good reason to be in a relationship. Don’t ever put yourself in that kind of situation. You’re better than that!
Are you staying in an unhappy relationship for security or your children? You don’t have to feel stuck. Look at your options, and map out a plan to remedy your situation and find your happiness. There’s nothing more empowering and badass than to be independent and single, because it gives you a chance to weed out the jerks before settling down. *wink*
10. Waiting for the Right Time
Are you in a constant state of waiting to get out there and change your life? Guess what – badass women know that there is no perfect or right time. The time is NOW. Carpe diem, baby! Take a leap of faith and live your life.
Go for whatever is going to make your heart beat with purpose and your blood flow with passion.
Light that match, ignite the flame, and burn, baby, burn!